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Exactly one year ago I wrote an article on painful breakups and more specifically on methods for getting over it. Therein I also mentioned a rather radically sounding means that is being formulaicly prescribed by the pickup community: FTOW – Fuck Ten Other Women! All right, it sounds stupid and certainly it isn’t meant to be taken literally. Still: I have done exactly this – and it has worked, even if differently from what I thought. Here is the story of my healing, illustrating once again how perfect and wondrous the Universe is. Read the rest of this entry »

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In the far west of Germany there’s a custom according to which in the night before the first of may, young men put up festively decorated birch trees in front of their loved one’s house. The girl is supposed to return the favor by giving a cask of beer or a huge paper heart to the boy later on. I’d always dismissed this kind of stuff as rural, supplicating bullshit. Jodie, however, like most any girl, was really into that kind of validation, asking me months before if I would put up a tree for her. Like any self respecting guy, I said no. Read the rest of this entry »

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Jane was the polar opposite of Jodie in almost every way. Brought up sheltered, disaster had struck her in her teens, and she was ever since learning to cope with life in a constructive and active way. It had made her a sweet yet strong young woman, the most trustworthy one I’ve ever met. She had been sticking with me as my girlfriend through quite some hardships for years, and we have been very happy at times. Read the rest of this entry »

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Jodie was a survival machine. Her story was that she had been mistreated badly by her single mother, left home as soon as she could, fought for herself all her life. This part of karma is what is usually explained by former lives. Doesn’t matter if you buy it. Not even a real beauty, she nonetheless had learned how to seduce any man she needed for self validation. And self validation she needed a lot. Her relationships tended to get fucked up real fast. No surprises here, no need for psychological analysis, it can all be nicely explained by karma – impressions that shape the subconscious.  But that was her karma. How did I get caught up in that, and why? Read the rest of this entry »

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The Buddhist view of karma is that of cause and effect. It doesn’t mean fate or anything like that, but refers to the effects that your thinking, speaking, and acting has on the world, and on your inner world in particular. The interesting thing is that karma makes people act in unconscious ways because of what they have done earlier (even in earlier lifes, though for me personally, this is more of a metaphor. More on that in another post.), and it makes the world treat you in specific ways because of what you have done. So it is often translated as cause and effect, but the ways in which it works are often so complex that the scientific notion of cause and effect is insufficient to describe it, and concepts like synchronicity seem more appropriate. An interesting view of karma is that it gives us a chance to learn. I have recently had the doubious pleasure of experiencing intense karma firsthand. In the next days I will publish three gruelling short stories that might illustrate what I mean. And yes, they are all about sex and relationships.

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All truth is trivial. This is because most of the time, everybody knows it. At least on a rational level. Then again, often many people know the opposite as well. And that might also be true, depending on context. Yet if it hits you in the right moment, triviality can be extremely powerful and healing, as well as profoundly painful. If this sounds confusing, here is one example: Sex is not a solution. Read the rest of this entry »

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I’m coping with my second breakup in a few months, and my pain has eased off considerably since the last post. If you got dumped or have some other difficult emotions that you can’t let go of, I know where you’re coming from. This might become a somewhat longer article, but if you’re like me, letting some time pass might not seem like such a bad idea in your state. Read the rest of this entry »

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