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Life is like a road in the mist. You never know what’s waiting for you. At crossroads signs tell you nothing but names, directions, distances. You only get to know the meaning of your decisions when you have arrived.

During my travels here, the mist in the Lao mountains has always been the perfect symbol for aimlessness. For not knowing what to do. These situations were accumulating more and more, wearing down my nerves and mind. One day, however, I had to realize that life is nothing but a road in the mist. You never know what tomorrow will bring. Which makes fighting against the mist a pointless waste of energy for everyone of us. As with so many things in life, the essential rule is called:

Accept the mist

You can make plans as much as you want. All fine and dandy. But always be aware of the fact that things are not necessarily in your hand. Even if they did, your environment and you yourself are changing all the time. It may be that the partner who is your big love now won’t fit with you anymore in three months’ time, or the other way round. The job that you have put yourself through five years of training for might end up boring you to death after no more than three days. Accept that you have limited influence over things that lie in the future.

For some this step is easy, yet many people have become strongly used to living and calculating with securities. These people will have difficulties when their securities blow up. Get used to thinking through strange but possible scenarios, or use mantras. But get accustomed to the thought that you don’t know what tomorrow brings. When the house was standing, you would never have believed it (This song used as an alarm clock melody can also do miracles).

Love the mist

Accepting is a good thing. In most cases it’s even necessary in order to prevent going mad in the long run. But it doesn’t make you happy. Yet exactly like you can appreciate and love the aesthetic of a misty landscape, the metaphorical mist has its advantages as well. Learn to love the mist for what it is and does. What can be positive about uncertainty? Simple: If you don’t know the outcome anyway, all your options are of equal value. The mist is offering you true freedom to decide. Love the fact that you don’t know where you will be in one year’s time. Love that you can freely choose your direction and look forward to whatever will come out of this.

Of course, everyone of us is influenced by their education, nationality and lots of other stuff. Only idiots fight these mechanisms compulsively. They have not come from nowhere and they suggest sensible concepts for life. There is nothing wrong with home, job, and family. All these things trigger mechanisms that are indeed conducive to a happy life. It’s just that these learned concepts of life are commonly interpreted a little too narrowly. What I mean by that and the advantages of thinking bigger – this week in our new series A Guide to an Alternative Life.

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Das Leben ist wie eine Strasse im Nebel. Du weisst nie, was dich erwartet. An Kreuzungen sagen Schilder nichts als Namen, Richtungen, Distanzen. Die Bedeutung deiner Entscheidungen erfaehrst du erst, wenn du da bist.Der Nebel in den Bergen von Laos war auf meinen Reisen hier immer das perfekte Symbol fuer Planlosigkeit. Dafuer, nicht zu ...