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When was the last time you have been in a hopeless situation? Didn’t know what to do, where to begin? What did you do next? Something stupid, nothing, or did you find a way out at last? Many people would advise to first make a list of your options. Let’s call this “Things I can do”.

To me, this is already one step too far. If I clearly knew the things I could do, the situation wouldn’t seem hopeless in the first place. I advise starting out with a different list: Things I cannot do. That is things that you would like to do, but which difficult circumstances keep you from doing. Ordinarily this will help defining a rough goal for your actions and excluding a few options, the most obvious ones, from the start. Now you can segue into the list of things you can do and which might possibly lead you to your roughly defined goal.

If after a long time of rumination no further things you can do come to you, go through them one by one and find out which of them you want to do and which you don’t. If there are things you can do and want to do and that help along then you were wrong: You situation is not hopeless. If after multiple rounds of thinking and feeling through your options you don’t want to grasp any of them, because your loss would in some way be too high or because there are simply no things on your list that you can do (very rare), then you have probably only one choice left: Waiting.

Businessmen see it as a waste of time, which is why they are idiots. Time is not money, it is all you really have. Waiting is an art and time an almost never ending resource, your paint on the canvas of waiting. For proper waiting one thing is important above all: Don’t wait for anything in particular, for a specific event. Although this might make your waiting time seem shorter through the anticipation involved, it impairs other essential abilites: Your openness and your attention. More on this in a minute. First simply wait for a change in your options. An extension of the list of things you can do. In order to make use of the following three powerful advantages of waiting you just need to know that you are waiting.

Waiting saves energy

This should be self-explanatory, but should be mentioned for the sake of completeness: If you are positive that there is no way out at the moment, it is better to save your energy until you can do something instead of mindlessly wasting it on pseudo solutions.

Waiting is the way to show the Universe you are ready

Your openness is key here. The rest is in the definition of the word: If you are open for as many as possible of the things and influences around you, they will find you. You just have to wait for them. Sounds easy? Well it is, if you don’t become set on a concrete event that you are waiting for. Here’s a simple example: If you are clearly waiting, you are an ideal conversation partner: You have time. People will come sooner or later, be it only because they, too, are waiting, in order to exchange a few words with you, it’s in their nature. A conversation often is a perfect way of expanding your options: Often your opposite will directly offer you a new way out. If not, at least you have received new information. So better listen closely, because attention is the key for the third miracle of waiting.

Waiting makes you receptive for the gifts of the Universe

When you wait, you have the time to keep close attention to things that would have escaped you had you tried to wriggle out of the shit. You can see, hear and feel them, even smell and taste them, which is problematic of course when you are literally buried in shit. For example you will realize that people you converse with can do much more than offer ways out or information: If you are open and attentive, they can provide totally new viewpoints, they can change your problem into a gift of fate. The same thing naturally holds for all the other influences.

Waiting as a way of life

This all sounds really enchanting? Now you never want to do anything but waiting ever again? Wise decision, but let me tell you that’s not quite as easy. Not only does it quickly lead to lethargy, above all it makes your skull burst. The advantage in hopeless situations is that their rough goal is relatively clear, so that the list of things you can do in them is very short most of the time, or can easily be shortened to a few to no options at all. This is different in real life: If you are open and attentive you will realize that this list is infinitely long all the time. Who could keep an oversight at that?

What you can take with you into reality is the spirit of waiting: Being open and attentive can never hurt. It’s also generally a good idea to define goals only roughly in order to keep them variable whenever the situation requires flexibility. Try it out: Waiting will change your life.

If all of this seems too abstract for you, you don’t believe me or you think I am an idiot (which I cannot blame anyone to do), stay put – coming up this week on sagesex: The story that illustrates the meaning of waiting.

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When was the last time you have been in a hopeless situation? Didn’t know what to do, where to begin? What did you do next? Something stupid, nothing, or did...